Sunday, July 31, 2016


I watch so many of these Near Death Experience video's and they are all interesting because of what they can tell you about the afterlife.

This man's experiences are interesting because after he died from the jellyfish bite, he went to a very dark place that sounds a lot like hell. It was dark, cold and scary, an "evil presence, a pervasive atmosphere of evil." A voice tells him to shut up because he's in hell where he deserves to be. Pretty scary stuff. (At around 28 minutes). Don't worry, he does get called into the light eventually.

Before that he prays as he's in the ambulance on the way to the hospital. The words of the Lord's prayer appear before him and he experiences what that prayer really means. God shows him he has to forgive the man who threw him out of his taxi cab to die on the street, because he wasn't carrying any money. Forgive the stranger who left him to die. He prays with his inner man, as he says. Frankly, I'm not sure I've ever prayed with my inner person.

Also, it does make me worry that I have not forgiven Tom. I know I haven't. You can't live with a man who tells you he loves you for thirty-five years and is a good husband, except he's lying to you every day of that marriage and breaking his vows. All that time, he's lusting after other women behind my back. Lying is cold hearted and mean. Lying is the antitheses of respect and love. So we can write those two things off. Tom never loved me and never respected me. If God let him come back and confess to me because I'm supposed to forgive him, I'm going straight to hell because I don't forgive him for that and I never will. Never.

The truth is I've actually prayed to hate him, because I loved him so much that it's hard to accept how awful he was. I have to stand up for myself. I'm the injured party here. He never asked for my forgiveness. He once told me I'd ruined his life. For thirty-five years he took my love, my devotion and my heart and held them all in contempt, secretly in his heart, scorning me and my love.

I do pity him, because he ended up killing himself with cigarettes and bile. I'm sorry he had such a terrible life. But? And I do understand that he was afraid to love anyone. Very sad. Really. But. That doesn't give you the right to ruin someone else's life, to marry a woman, to take her love and hold it in contempt. That's very wrong, no matter why you do it.

In fact, I wonder if I didn't forgive him too much in life.

I have to laugh when I think of him reaching the other side. He seemed to think he was the long suffering party for having stuck it out being married to me. He must have been in for quite a surprise when he got the full picture. Not that I am a saint by any means, but who did he think he was that he could marry a woman, any woman, and lie to her? What arrogance to think that the rules about keeping his marriage vows didn't apply to him! Who the heck did he think he was?

He could be a real PR***, if you know what I mean. But of course, he was messed up and miserable.

In a lot of these NDE videos, the people say that they get to the other side and realize that what happens on earth doesn't matter. I think that must be just an initial sense of euphoria from being free from the cares of earthly life. I am quite sure that life here matters. God can't possibly be some entity who is indifferent to human suffering. If he were, we humans would be even worse than we are.

We are here for a reason. We have been created as who we are for a reason. Our actions are part of some great plan. That's why it's important to understand what happens here and why we have to be responsible for ourselves and our actions.





Sunday, July 24, 2016

THE AFTERLIFE

As a Columbia University graduate, model with Eileen Ford and TV commercial actress, I'd shared an exciting life with my husband, actor and former paratrooper, Tom O'Rourke. He'd worked as a regular on all the "Law and Order" shows, done many supporting roles in films and on television, co-starred opposite Sandra Bullock in the TV series "Working Girl" and was Justin on the soap opera "Guiding Light". 

Then I had the 'Death Coach' dream the year I lost Tom, my husband of 35 years, to cancer; my electric meter reader predicted exactly where I would move; my husband sent me a dream message in a movie to prove to me he was still with me; and when I could no longer doubt it was really Tom speaking to me from the afterlife, he confessed his marital infidelities. 

Modeling and acting are two businesses that trade in sex appeal, so neither of us was naïve when it came to sex. We both knew our way around the casting couch and how to take care of ourselves by the time we fell in love, got married and lived happily ever after for 35 years. Best friends forever, right? That's what I'd always believed, but I was wrong.

When Tom showed me he'd been running after other women throughout our marriage. I was heartbroken and astounded. Why would he do that? Only by taking another look at our love story and having the secret desires and fears of his heart and soul revealed to me by a psychic medium was I able to piece together the reasons for Tom's sad flight from the true love he always said meant so much to him.

It's still very hard for me to believe in the afterlife, or that the dead can visit us, and that God is everywhere around us. But now I understand how my Screaming Eagle with the broken wing feathers got very lost in life and was unable to find his way back to truth and love until after he crossed over. I know my friends think I'm a raving lunatic widow trying to reconnect with her dead husband. Actually, he contacted me to confess. It's taken buckets of tears, months of furious anger, and all the love I ever had for him, but I finally get it. I know who Tom really was. And if I can't totally forgive him, I can at least understand what happened to him and love the man he tried to be. 

This book is my true story of how love reached out from the afterlife to show me that in every way possible God is love, and even when we aim in the wrong direction, God's will brings us back to spiritual grace.